Couple and Relationship Therapy
When communication breaks down and intimacy feels like a chore, 'getting by' isn't enough. I help couples confront the friction—from sexual disconnects to clashing life goals—and transform it into a foundation for growth. Stop settling for a relationship that feels like work and start building a partnership that works for you.
Do you wish you felt more like each-others first responders and less like first offenders? Most couples come to therapy because they feel stuck, disconnected, or misaligned. I work with partners to build a foundation of Secure Functioning—where your partnership is enveloped in a protective relationship bubble. Where you are a team that has each other’s back, acts on shared principles of mutuality and justice, and understands that for the team to win both individuals must feel safe and protected.
The shift is transformative: When a couple is functioning securely, the management issues that used to spark conflict—the laundry, parenting disagreements, chore equity, in-law boundaries, and the "scheduling" of sex—suddenly become much easier to navigate. When you trust the team, the logistics of life stop being a source of resentment and start being a shared project.
A secure "we" is only as strong as the “I”s within it. My couples work also focuses on Differentiation, the courageous ability to be deeply connected to your partner without losing your sense of self. It may seem like a contradiction, but differentiation is actually the fuel for secure functioning.
To truly protect the relationship, you must be differentiated enough to:
Self-Regulate: Stay grounded in your own values even when your partner is upset, preventing the fire of one person from consuming the whole house.
Embrace Honest Intimacy: Share your truest desires and boundaries—even when they are different from your partner's—so the relationship is built on reality rather than a polite facade.
Choose (not need) each other: Move from a fused connection (where you need the other to feel okay) to a secure partnership (where you choose the other from a place of wholeness).
When we bridge these two concepts, therapy stops being about "fixing" one person and starts being a laboratory for your connection. We work to build a relationship that is safe enough to lean on (Secure Functioning) and expansive enough to grow in (Differentiation).